Archive for October, 2010

Dealing With Criticism Online

Posted: October 21, 2010 in Uncategorized

I get asked fairly frequently how I deal with the negativity and criticism I encounter online as a result of this blog.  So I thought I’d write a little postie about it (yes I just made up that word) for other bloggers, authors and writers out there who may be encountering backlash from writing on topics that clearly pick “a side” on issues that are treated as fairly controversial.

So here’s what I’ve learned:

I can pay attention to the chatter on forums, websites, blogs and the occasional “hate e-mail” I receive from time to time…or not.  It’s basically that simple.  I have the choice, the option to engage or disengage from it and I have chosen the latter.  It can be a “blog-eat-blog” world out there and I totally realize that there are people who disagree with my message, my experiences, my story, my beliefs and just plain don’t like me for things I have written.  That’s fine.  I’m not running for President or a Miss America pageant and I didn’t start a blog to win a popularity contest. I started this blog to share a story…my story.

So, when I come into contact with that kind of critical, negative, mean-spirited stuff I for the most part ignore it and don’t respond.  I’m busy living my life, doing things I love, spending time with the amazing people that I am blessed to have in my life and occasionally I post on a blog or two.  I don’t have to try to make people like me or get me.  If they do, then great…but if they don’t that’s okay too.  Everyone has the personal choice to agree or disagree and that’s up to them.  I have my stance on the issues and they have theirs.  Remember that no one really can “talk you out of” or “reprimand/berate” you for your own personal experiences.

I also realize that I write about subject matter that draws very emotional reactions from people because readers tend to be very passionately for or against what I’m saying and there isn’t much in the middle.  But that’s just the way it is.  I’ve accepted it and hopefully, if you’re out there sharing your story, you’ll read this and feel a bit more empowered and encouraged and you’ll come to that place of accepting it too.  Speak the truth in love, keep an open heart to the L-rd and listen carefully for His direction, but don’t divert your attention or give a 2nd glance to that loud fog horn of judgment and venomous anger that you might be getting hurled with.  Listen to the still small voice of the Father’s reassuring love and do all to please Him and not man.  Don’t lose sight of truth or get caught up in trying to bend your message to cater to an audience.  Be authentic and sincere and those who are seeking truth will find you, if it’s truth you are speaking, and they will be blessed, uplifted and encouraged.  At the end of the day, that’s really what doing this whole blog thing should be about anyway so let the chaff sift through and keep sharing your story.

Lastly, let me say that the positive comments and e-mails many, many times over outweigh the negative.  I’ve been blessed to have truly amazing readers on this blog who have shared their own stories and personal experiences, offered incredible insights, poured encouragement into me and supported my blog by sharing it with their family and friends.  You know who you are and I can’t thank you all enough for that!

~Ariel